Pain.
Humiliation.
Motivation.
A set that goes together. Reality TV elements or just real life for someone.
Something funny about someone else's misfortune. Laughing goes on behind their back. Pointless.
Why do so many feel admiration when they learn of people helping others and yet they take joy in the misfortune of others?
Move on. Put it behind you.
And when you see someone else being laughed at have the courage to step into the fray and yell stop!
Sunday
don't lose your way
"As it is better to lie squeezed in a narrow bed and be healthy than to be tossed with disease on a broad couch, so also it is better to contract yourself within a small competence and be happy than to have a great fortune and be miserable." Epictetus
Where is your competence? Although you might be good at many things you can never be in control of things that are beyond you. The best driver in the world is at risk when he crosses paths with the worse driver in the world.
Maintain a narrow focus on your goals and do not let them depend on things that you have no control over.
Where is your competence? Although you might be good at many things you can never be in control of things that are beyond you. The best driver in the world is at risk when he crosses paths with the worse driver in the world.
Maintain a narrow focus on your goals and do not let them depend on things that you have no control over.
Saturday
stop
More power to the willing.
Those of us that are willing to stop are the ones in control of our own lives.
You cannot do the things that you want to do if you continue to do things that are no longer important to you.
"To start anything new, you must stop doing something old. We say that "getting in means getting out." ", Brian Tracy
This is crucial.
Don't just stop using the things you have, sell them off.
Don't just grumble about being taken advantage of, put a stop to it.
Don't just accept your situation, change it.
I know from my own experience this is hard.
I have far too many things and need to get rid of a lot of them. This is a monumental challenge for me.
On the other hand, I have the opportunity to change my schedule completely around in the coming year and look forward to the chance.
Put yourself first and let go of the things that are holding you back. If you feel someone is taking advantage of you set a date when this must stop. And stick to it.
Those of us that are willing to stop are the ones in control of our own lives.
You cannot do the things that you want to do if you continue to do things that are no longer important to you.
"To start anything new, you must stop doing something old. We say that "getting in means getting out." ", Brian Tracy
This is crucial.
Don't just stop using the things you have, sell them off.
Don't just grumble about being taken advantage of, put a stop to it.
Don't just accept your situation, change it.
I know from my own experience this is hard.
I have far too many things and need to get rid of a lot of them. This is a monumental challenge for me.
On the other hand, I have the opportunity to change my schedule completely around in the coming year and look forward to the chance.
Put yourself first and let go of the things that are holding you back. If you feel someone is taking advantage of you set a date when this must stop. And stick to it.
Friday
simple
"Life is basically pretty simple. You get up in the morning, you do the things you have to do and if you have time you do some things you want to do. You try not to hurt people and you help them if you can. Then you go to bed." Dean Sluyter, the zen commandments.
I like this.
All laid out for us, crisp clean and lean.
Pretty close to what I do.
Except it is a little late in the morning when I get up and I don't manage to do what I have to much less what I want to.
I really try not to hurt people, I say please because I try to play nice, I hold back the desire to tell people stuff in conversation, I don't use the really obscure words I know because people are already put off by the ones I do use, I don't call people names, I stand and listen.
Nevertheless I run into people all of the time who are acting hurt in some way by life.
Expectations can be blamed. People are upset because their expectations are not met.
Not that people expect a whole lot, they just expect everything in some particular order that they have imagined.
Let the world do something different and they rail against it.
Set your own expectations in general, not particular, terms.
I like this.
All laid out for us, crisp clean and lean.
Pretty close to what I do.
Except it is a little late in the morning when I get up and I don't manage to do what I have to much less what I want to.
I really try not to hurt people, I say please because I try to play nice, I hold back the desire to tell people stuff in conversation, I don't use the really obscure words I know because people are already put off by the ones I do use, I don't call people names, I stand and listen.
Nevertheless I run into people all of the time who are acting hurt in some way by life.
Expectations can be blamed. People are upset because their expectations are not met.
Not that people expect a whole lot, they just expect everything in some particular order that they have imagined.
Let the world do something different and they rail against it.
Set your own expectations in general, not particular, terms.
Thursday
conception of something in its absolute perfection
Do you have an ideal? Do you see a vision of yourself as you want to be? Do you have a vision of your life as you would like it to be? Why not?
This is the most important step to make for improvements in life.
It's not easy. I live right in the middle of America and I am inundated all the time with advertisements designed to convince me that I must buy the product. There will always be new and better product which certainly complicates things. It's nonsense. It's not satisfying either.
To listen to what appears to be the culture all around me is worthless. To pay attention to the life that marketing presents me is to be lost. Sure, lots of people do, most people do, and many are frustrated and angry at the same time.
"We don't recognize either what hurts us or what helps us. All through our lives we blunder along and never stop, or even watch our step, because of this. But surely you can see how crazy it is to rush ahead in the dark. We seem set on getting ourselves called back from a greater distance and, although we don't know our overall goal, we continue to move as fast as we can in the direction we are going." - Seneca
Life comes at you. If you only knew where you were going you could use what life sends your way. You cannot know where you are going unless you hold a concept of your ideal.
Seneca quote from 'The Stoic Art of Living" by Tom Morris
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